Po Boy Views
By
Phil LaMancusa
White and Blue
Or
Social Insecurity
A
few weeks ago I made the mistake of posting on social media that I believed
that there was no justification for looting, the destroying of private property,
and/or violence in what should be
civil protests. I released a virtual sh*tstorm of responses, one of which
accused my viewpoint of being naive and clouded because it was coming from a
place of “privilege”. I was enraged. I immediately dusted off my cred resume to
check off my qualifications for the miscreant that would dare to label and
libel me with this poison arrow that went to my heart. Privileged.
Raised
poor: check. Single parent, five children, on welfare, in the projects: check,
check check check check. Mistreated and maligned: check again. Second
generation American, Viet Nam era veteran, retired and living on Social
Security: that’s me. Who would have
the nerve to think me “privileged”? This conundrum kept me from getting the
peaceful rest that I so well deserve (and have earned), causing me to ponder both
weak and weary.
There
was no systemic racism in my young world per se. Everybody almost instinctually
distanced themselves from anybody and everybody who was not of their class,
religion and background. We were biased against (and were suspicious of) Aryan Eastern
Europeans, Asians, Blacks, Latinos, Swarthy Mediterranean types, Jews,
Protestants, intellectuals, anyone possibly Socialist, Fascist or Communist and
the possibility of persons that would become known as the LGBTQ+ community. Also,
those that had more money than us, certainly those that had less and anyone who
rooted for an out of town sports team. In short, everyone around us. We all got
along in social and public places (even making friends) and we never pictured those people or ourselves as being underprivileged or
disadvantaged… just different than us all and everybody else.
I
was a difficult child, imaginative, intelligent, insecure and headstrong. I got
in trouble, pushed boundaries and avoided conformity; doing as I pleased, when
I pleased. What was I rebelling against? In the words of Johnny Strabler:
(Marlon Brando, The Wild One, 1953) “Whaddya got?” I never considered myself
part of a privileged class until the other night when the ‘get a clue phone’
rang and the voice on the other end said “But,
you’re white”.
It’s
true. I am white. Walking down the street, entering a business, congregating
with other white folks and being out and about in general, I appear harmless
and nothing to be apprehensive about: “it’s okay, it’s just some old white
guy”.
When
applying for a position or attention, I’m out on stage in my ‘normal’ clothes and
I put on my ‘white’ vocal accent and use my ‘white’ enunciation and there I am:
the old white guy. I know how to work the system. I can rent pretty much
anywhere I want and can afford. I don’t appear suspicious, so any time I walk
into a saloon, the bartender wants to know what I want to drink instead of
making sure that the cash register is closed before they serve me. I don’t look
tough, so that’s a plus; I don’t act tough, because, basically, I’m not. I’m
pretty much accepted anywhere I go because I’m just some old white guy. I don’t
know what it’s like to be Black, Jewish, Hispanic, Palestinian, Gay, a woman,
person with disabilities, someone forced to live on a reservation or anyone
else that gets singled out for abuse, or dismissed for no apparent reason
except that they are who they are.
Self
actualization comes slow and with my short attention span I had to repeat to
myself the fact that in the real world I am invisible and pretty much immune to
the reality that there are people out there having legitimate beefs with the
world at large because the world believes in reality that they don’t, in fact,
matter. That old song: “The whole world is teeming with unhappy souls; the
French hate the Germans the Germans hate the Poles; Italians hate Yugoslavs,
South Africans hate the Dutch and I don’t like anybody very much” fits well.
And then the oppressed have the nerve to bitch about the oppressor. The nerve.
In
the screw or be screwed world that we live in there seems to be little hope for
what our venerated religious saviors have instructed us to do: love one another
and treat one another the way we wish ourselves to be treated, with kindness,
respect and dignity; with fairness and equality. Is that so hard of a pill to
swallow? Obviously it is.
Well,
I’m still rebellious and although in the scheme of things I’m still immune from
the challenges that persist, I believe that seeking justice is the highest form
of rebellion; so I’ll continue to rebel against racism, sexism, classism,
slavery, ageism, and bias. I’m for
equality and the betterment of education, wages, housing and the protection of
the environment. And most important, I’m against labels, boundaries and walls
that keep people apart from one another.
What
I believe we need is for a level of intelligence to become common that allows
all of us to see past our preconditioned and preconceived ideas that not all
living beings need to feel safety in movement and environment; to be able to
live free and without constraints. None of us should feel the need to protect
ourselves because we feel threatened by someone or something different than
ourselves, and should live the faith that that is totally and unequivocally
reciprocated. We should put an end to hate and hurt. It’s proven to have a counterproductive
track record.
Also,
I still believe that there is no justification in looting, violence or
destruction in civil protests. But what do I know? I’m just this old white guy.
